2026-01-13 02:22:23

Why do New Year's goals always fall by the wayside? The key is not that you lack self-discipline, but that you are still bound by your old identity framework.

Many people want to change their habits but never change their self-perception. You try to force change through willpower, unaware that the root cause lies deeper—your self-identity.

Think about those plans you couldn't stick to: why do fitness plans fail, why do savings plans fall apart? It's not because of a lack of perseverance, but because your internal identity hasn't upgraded. You still believe in your mind that you "can't do it," and no matter how much effort you put in, it's all in vain.

Flip the perspective: become that person first, and the results will follow naturally. Change your identity, modify your behavior, and achieve the outcome—sequence is crucial. This is the correct way to level up in life.

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SneakyFlashloan

· 5h ago

That's right, mindset is really a huge obstacle. But I think, knowing this truth and actually practicing it are worlds apart.

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ImpermanentPhobia

· 5h ago

That's right, the key to breaking the deadlock is self-awareness. I used to obsess over self-control, but I still gave up halfway. Now I realize that I need to fundamentally change who I am.

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RiddleMaster

· 5h ago

To be honest, I've already figured out this identity thing long ago. The problem is that most people simply can't change their perception of themselves. To put it plainly, it's still self-deception.

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