When an adult is not independent, lacks a sense of responsibility, relies on others to cover for them, or even depends on their parents long-term, the common explanation is "spoiling." However, this explanation is not valid. If love truly caused people to lose strength, then those who have been genuinely loved should be more fragile and more prone to avoiding reality; but in fact, the opposite is true. People who have been truly loved often have a greater ability to face reality and take responsibility. The issue is not with love itself, but with the fact that many things that are not love are mistakenly labeled as love.

From a professional perspective, "irresponsibility" is not a moral issue but a failure to establish a responsibility system. A sense of responsibility is not formed through preaching but arises from a clear learning chain: making choices, bearing consequences, and adjusting oneself within those consequences. When a person is accustomed to waiting for others to cover for them, it indicates that this chain has been repeatedly broken during growth. The key is not just the fact that it has been broken, but who broke it and for what motivation.

In many families, covering for and taking over are not truly driven by love for the child but stem from adults' low tolerance for uncertainty. When problems arise, adults first experience anxiety and a loss of control, leading them to intervene quickly, take over, and bear the consequences on behalf of the child. The speed of intervention often has little to do with the child's actual ability but is highly related to the adult's level of anxiety.

As a result, problems are solved before the child even tries, and consequences are preemptively absorbed before they fully materialize. What appears to be care is actually an externalization of emotional regulation. Over time, children learn an adaptive strategy: even without taking responsibility, they can still feel safe. This is not love spoiled but a survival mechanism trained over time.

Therefore, the core reason for "giant babies" and "living off parents" is not too much love, but the long-term cancellation of consequences and the destruction of the responsibility chain. True love empowers people to face reality, while what often causes people to lose their capacity to bear responsibility is anxiety and control falsely labeled as love.