Judging whether your parents love you is not actually complicated; a preliminary judgment can be made with three points. The first point: when talking about "money" with your parents, do you feel fear or guilt? When you were young and in school, the school asked for textbook fees or uniform fees; or when you wanted a small item costing a few yuan or a dozen yuan, did you always need to prepare yourself mentally for a long time and muster up a lot of courage to speak up? As soon as money is mentioned, you feel uneasy, scared, or guilty. And most of these expenses are actually within your parents' ability to support. Whether parents are willing to provide material support within their capacity often reflects the level of their love. Usually, it is only after reaching adulthood that one gradually understands this.

The second point: when you are hurt by external factors, do your parents stand by your side? When you encounter difficulties, face accusations, or are belittled and denied by elders, do your parents unconditionally support, protect, and help you out? Or do they watch coldly, or even agree with those who hurt you, and join in attacking you? Whether parents stand with you at critical moments determines whether you feel truly safe inside.

The third point: are you willing to actively get close to your parents and this family? Are you willing to share happy moments with your parents? Such as travel experiences, delicious food, or snippets from work and life. When you are an adult and fully independent, are you willing to go home? When you think of your parents and family, does your heart feel warmth and strength, or do you feel avoidance, repression, guilt, or even resistance?

If you meet more than two of these three points, the answer is actually very obvious. Acknowledging that your parents do not love you that much is not something difficult to accept. After a child is born, out of biological instinct, almost everyone deeply loves their parents and feels "My dad and mom are the best in the world." The reason for later resentment towards parents is often due to long-term suppression, belittling, and neglect. Love can be gradually consumed. And ultimately, a child's alienation is not due to indifference, but a natural self-protection mechanism that arises after awakening to the realization of not being loved.